I’ve been inspired by people writing to me regarding my previous posts. I am so grateful that in less than five months, my blog has reached over 500,000 viewers worldwide! Wow, I didn’t know that much people (esp in other places that appeared in my google analytics). Having my simple blog touching the lives of others is a dream come true! Thank you Lord! And of course, MARAMING SALAMAT to all my avid readers. From my previous articles, some were requesting to share more of our marriage secrets – how do we keep that glow in our marital friendship. That’s something that Mark and I have to work on as we spend our the rest of our lives together but I’ll do my best to share bits as I go along with this blog and other future posts.
Since I’ve been into writing about my travels lately, and oh food too, I thought of squeezing that topic with our latest escapade at Saint Tropez. So here it is, let me start with….
The ‘Selfie’ Elevator Shot.
I was wearing this printed dress, soft curls, make-up free and a smile for our Saint Tropez trip over the weekend. Sorry for the selfie pic! I just want to share that I got my old dress size back – that’s UK size 8. Yipeeeeeee! If you’ve read some of my previous posts (i.e. Weight Loss Challenge / Let’s Juice it Baby), I mentioned that I gained few kilos and flabs (ouch) during the first few months of our marriage life. And Mark too! So we both decided to do something about it and later on, we developed a healthier lifestyle. We started working out again and as the house chef, I do my best to prepare hearty healthy meals. Of course we have cheat days but at least this time, we’re more conscious of what we eat and compensate those inevitable-gazillion-calorie-intake with running. So tadaaaaaaaaa…….. lost nearly 5 kilos in 4 months, muffin-top gone and people notice my glowing skin (to those who were asking, that’s my skincare secret).
Keeping that glow in marriage means taking care of ourselves for our partner. Being healthy is also one of the best things we could give to our loved ones including our [future] children. What we have on the inside will reflect on the outside. I remember, Joel Osteen quoted in one of his messages that, “if there’s someone we have to impress by looking good, it should be our spouse”. He also mentioned that men really appreciate that the wife puts efforts to maintain physically attractive like how he met her for the first time (as we know men are first attracted with the woman’s outside beauty followed by her inner beauty); it is not by shocking our partner with a full on make-up as we open the door but by doing simple things like combing our hair before hubby gets home, making ourselves look presentable and smelling good, getting rid of those granny pj’s (lol), proper hygiene, etc. I totally agree. It’s not being vain or so but we all know that a beautiful sight always brightens our day and so does men are drawn into beauty. Be the wife and the mistress at the same time (*wink). As what I was advising one of my girl friends last week, ‘be the best woman he can ever have in his life – from the inside to the outside’. (Men, you are not excused – this is also applicable to you. Like the IG post says, ‘BOYS, if you don’t look like CALVIN KLEIN models, don’t expect us to look like VICTORIA’S SECRET ANGELS”, lol. But seriously, Mark keeps telling his circle that now that he is married, the more he has to make efforts in looking good for his wife – that’s moi feeling lucky *kilig). So make that effort, keep smiling and maintain a holistic healthy lifestyle.
Our Fabulous Weekend Home in Saint Tropez.
This Mediterranean villa was our fabulous home at Saint Tropez last weekend. I would like to thank our friends – Malou and Jim, for the hospitality and ‘first class’ treatment! Thanks mucho! (Babawi kami!)
One of my colleagues in my previous job shared her heartbreaking marriage life. After the separation, she told me that whenever she looks back, all she can remember in her failed 10-year marriage was they were both busy with their jobs and grew apart from each other. Yes, they were able to buy a big house but they’re no longer together to enjoy the fruits of their labor. The house didn’t become a home. Really, that’s sad and I shared it with Mark. I know we are work-oriented people and summer’s the busiest time in our calendar year – Mark’s busy at Bono’s whilst I’m busy with all the out-of-town work events and yearly business planning. Over the time, we’ve learned that we still have to keep the balance as we don’t want to look back and see that we’ve only done this or done that. As a young couple, we have to prioritize especially that we have financial obligations and dreams that we’d like to fulfill. We are also learning how to plan yet take things as they come. It’s not as fabulous as this weekend or like some of my previous posts all the time. We’re normal people – there are lazy couch days, general house cleaning, walking around the neighborhood, sitting down on our monthly budget vs expenses, spending time with friends, etc on our days off… But what’s important, wherever we are, we will always find our home in each other.
Food and Wine Overload.
Grabe Malou ang sarap mong magluto! Bon appetit kami ni Mark! Thanks to you and Jim again, also to our other friends who shared the love for food and wine last Saturday night. Merci beaucoup!
One of the things to keep that glow in marriage is making time to enjoy the company of good friends. We have to accept though that we may not be able to spend longer or more frequent times with friends like we used to when we were still single. Over the years, we have friends that we keep, friends we let go and new friends that we meet. It is essential that as a couple, we connect with other people who brings positive vibes in our marriage life. Lemme say this again, good things are also shared best over good food :-)
When Mark and I were still dating, I was tanned to the nth level! I was in between jobs during those times so I had the luxury of declaring ‘everyday’s a beach day’ then. This summer, I’m sooooo white, so there I was – in and out of the pool on a Sunday morning – tanning and swimming. Mark took few photos of me but he was asleep during 80% of my ‘feeling-like-mermaid’ moments. Later on, he resurrected from his Saturday night hang-over (*peace baby) and joined me in the pool…
Dip and Shoot.
… but he was shortly distracted with Jim’s toy – airsoft gun! So as Malou and I carried on swimming after breakfast, Mark and Jim were into their shooting.
Although Mark and I love doing things together – we also have our own interests. Most couple argue when one’s interest becomes an issue with the other person or when the timing’s wrong. Mark and I are not perfect – we also have those petty arguments over our different interests like what every couple experience. But thank God, we’re learning to appreciate these differences, find a way to work things out and be mindful of understanding each other – it’s not always easy but it’s worth it.
Hours after lunch on the same day, four of us (Mark, Jim, John and I) went to the port for parasailing (thanks Ate Isay for booking). It’s the boys’ first time – that’s gives me that confidence advantage since I did this 2 years ago, lol! Before sailing to the seas, we wore our life vests and those strappy stuff in preparation for our thrilling activity later on.
Despite the different persona, I am a believer that a couple should agree and have the same visions since married couples are united as one. Getting prepped on the thrills that marriage has to offer is like building a firm foundation (that also keeps the romance alive). Yes, there are times that we just have to go with the flow – enjoy and live the moment but there are big things in marriage life that both parties have to prepare – financial goals, career progression, house move, having babies, etc. Preparation may not be an easy process (it could be fun too), most importantly – you do it together as a couple.
The Bumpy but Super Fun Boat Ride.
Mark and I were enjoying the boat ride whilst the two other boys were metres above the sea. The ride was sooooooo bumpy that we were just laughing most of the time. It was super fun!
One of my single friends asked, “is marriage life like a routine?!”. I said, hell NO. There will always be bumps – some which will make you laugh, throw up (ala sea-sick) or scared. It’s not smooth sailing all the time. Through these bumps, it’s best to hold on to each other, never forget to have a good laugh as you sail together.
Together We’ll Fly Baby.
Now it’s our turn. Up above the blue waters, we had a good aerial view of the amazing super yachts and those on their sailing boats over that piece of the Mediterranean plus the chic town of Saint Tropez from a distance. It sounds so romantic especially as we held hands up there but we were giggling most of the time (especially when the wind’s rockin’, I was screaming, lol). But yeah, it was a romantic treat for us.
I believe that doing unusual things together strengthens the marital friendship. It’s essential to make time for fun and be adventurous as a couple. Shake up the familiar patterns. As you schedule activities, you’ll also realise that there are even more fun spontaneous stuff rising up within those plans – that makes things super exciting. We only live once so let’s make the most out of it.
If you are experiencing some rough air, always remember that those who put their hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint (Isaiah 40:31).
So fly, baby, fly.
Oh yes, it’s time to RELAXXXXXXXXX!
Soon after our awesome boat-parasailing-under-the-sun-above-the-sea trip, we headed back to the villa. Mark had his massage by the pool as I had a relaxing swim with halo-halo in between. La vie est belle!
Probably like most of my female readers, I’m a woman of the 21st century – always on-the-go, career-driven, domestic goddess, multitasking, all-in-one. Given all these ‘superwoman’ adjectives as what magazines mostly describe the women of today’s era, I still know how to relax. I’ve learned how to manage my time better and that’s what every man needs – a woman who can manage her time (I think it goes vice versa too). This is a valuable skill as well when kids come along. Relaxing not only recharges me, it also makes me realise how blessed I am as a wife, making me an even more grateful person.
Hope you enjoy this article as I send my cyber hugs to all xoxo
Keep glowing, everyone!
P.S. If you’re in Saint Tropez, don’t forget to stop by at Barbarac for a gelato treat!
Once again, I would like to thank Malou, Jim, Ate Isay, Kuya D, John, Ate Lory, Kuya Randy, Harold, Mau and Gwen for another fun weekend in Saint Tropez. Til next time! Bisous!